“The chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear-primarily fear that we would lose something we already possessed or would fail to get something that we demanded. Living upon a basis of unsatisfied demands, we were in a state of continual disturbance and frustration. Therefore, no peace was to be had unless we could find a means of reducing these demands. The difference between a demand and a simple request is plain to anyone.
“The Seventh Step is where we make the change in our attitude which permits us, with humility as our guide, to move out from ourselves towards others and toward God. The whole emphasis of Step Seven is on humility. It is really saying to us that we now ought to be willing to try humility in seeking the removal of our own shortcomings just as we did when we admitted that we were powerless over alcohol, and came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. If that degree of humility could enable us to find the grace by which such a deadly obsession could be banished, then there must be hope of the same result respecting any other problem we could possibly have.”
-Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, Pg. 76
Here is a talk from Ron H. on steps six and seven.